The Truth Will Set You Free!
People expect it from others yet seem incapable of granting it.
They give excuses like; ‘I don’t want to hurt your feelings’, however, by being dishonest about how your thinking or feeling not only hurts the other person, that thing you claim your trying to avoid also puts a black stain on your soul, for you are being dishonest with yourself.
Why do people do that? What conditioned fear has them hooked into inauthenticity?
Guilt at a change in ideas or ideals? Fear of rejection? Fear of being corrected? fear of being caught out? Fear of being wrong? fear of being judgemental? fear of conflict?
What ever the reason FEAR is always behind it.
FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real.
Fear is like Heroin to the superficial mind of ego, it keeps us hooked like an addict and only once we wake up to the fact that it is destroying our life in one way or another, usually manifesting physically as Dis-ease, might we finally say enough is enough and find the strength to break free.
Sometimes our mind can play tricks on us due to past experiences and we can interpret situations based upon those events. We create a whole elaborate scenario in our heads where we are generally the victim of an others concept of us.
Or vice versa we derive an imagined concept of another based on an event that may be out of character for them, but resonates with a prior happening in our past. Character assassination then ensues and rather than openly discuss this with them we avoid the situation, and when questioned about why the sudden change, dishonesty creeps in yet again.
Thy say that the ‘the truth hurts’ but does it really or does it hurt more to feel deceived?
In my humble opinion, if you are being honest about your feelings in a non aggressive or hurtful manner,but, in a loving way, then you have nothing to be afraid of. How the other person takes it is not your responsibility. Likewise if someone comes to you with an honest observation, how you respond to that is entirely a reflection of your own spiritual maturity.
Patterns and layers of dishonesty weaving a web of lies.
‘What a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.’
One of the hardest lessons it seems on the spiritual path is Authenticity and that my friends starts with honest communication.
The journey begins with being honest with yourself, dig deep and find the why? behind your urge to ‘save another’s feelings’.
Heart led honesty really is the best policy, always!